Caryl Greenberg, MSW, LSW
I was reading an article in a popular magazine and
I realized it was describing a personality trait that I possess. The article made me reflect on how I relate to my family, my friends, as well as complete strangers. I always knew that I like helping people; after all my chosen profession as a social worker is known as one of the ‘helping fields’. I have been able to channel my inquisitive nature into something fulfilling by choosing this profession with the end game of helping others. This is not me being altruistic; there is a lot I get a lot out of it. At the end of some days, I congratulate myself on sophisticated advocacy, bureaucratic breakdowns, providing emotional support often resulting in clients gaining strength and confidence and more. So when I read this article what I learned was that I help people even when they don’t ask me to. I have imposed my social work on everyone! Reflecting back, I realize that when a coworker grumbles about increased costs of prices, I intervene with a coupon, when my daughter complains about ‘teenage drama’ I ask for details to work out a strategy, when I saw someone struggling with too many packages I offered to help and when my friend was complaining about her spouse I offered suggestions on how to approach the problem; I can go on and on. My thought process always seems to gravitate toward ‘how can I be helpful’. This might be particularly salient to women since we have been socialized toward being the nurturer in our relationships. So whether I have a need to be needed, or am simply socialized to help others, being aware of my actions is a means to be able to improve myself. My informal experiment was an eye opener! When people came to me with their situations I didn’t quickly rush in to offer my insight or advice. I allowed those uncomfortable moments of silence, and most of the time people came up with their own solutions. What could be a better
strategy than to help others utilize their own strengths? As we go about our day, reflect on how to improve upon ourselves. For me the impetus was an article that I read, I realized that I didn’t want to be the person that is always the rescuer, at least not if I wasn’t asked to be. Even though I am not as quick to ‘help’ I cannot change my nature but I can be more aware of my interventions. Is there a part of your personality that can use a little tweaking?
Monthly Bereavement Group: Monday, May 20th 10:45am Anyone who has suffered the loss of a spouse or partner
is welcome to attend the monthly bereavement group.
Questions? Please call Caryl x 7212
An Intergenerational Program Not to be Missed
Living Legacy’s is a program that the South Brunswick High School students will present at the Senior Center on April 29th at 12:15 pm. Under the direction of the very talented Jillian Trader, her students will be interviewing residents or family members of residents who are First Generation Immigrants. The groups of students are a very skilled at interviewing, writing and preforming and we
will be in for a treat. Some of you might remember this program in conjunction with Jacque Rubel and the ‘Aging in Place Partnership’ nonprofit she created. Though ‘AIPP’ is no longer operational, Jacque’s legacy will live on through this program. Jacque believed in partnering with others and creating links that become conduits for resources. She had been very involved in the arts and intergenerational programs and in her memory the High School and Senior Center have committed to this annual program.
There were many good things that came out of the AIPP including a focus on accessing transportation and how critical it is to quality of life. Jacque would be happy to know that in addition to South Brunswick’s transportation that bring individuals to malls, restaurants, doctor appointments and more, there is also a huge movement toward using Uber and Lyft. If you have a smart phone this service is an inexpensive way to travel anywhere including lunch out, hair appointments, movies and many other venues that lends a level of richness to our day. If you want instruction on how to utilize your smart phone app please reach out to me and I can connect you with someone who can work with you. Alternatively, if you don’t have a smart phone you are in luck because there is a service called EZ Ride/Ryde4Life
that can connect you to UBER or LYFT for a nominal fee (for free if you have PAAD) The ride is not free, just the added fee.
You can call them directly at 866.208.1307 ext 4.
Please let me know if you need help and see you on the 29th!
Join A Group...
What's on Your Mind
"What's On Your Mind" meets on Fridays at 1:45 p.m. to discuss current events and information that interests you. We welcome new members. You can drop in anytime. Call Caryl for more information.
Monthly Bereavement Support Group
Ongoing support group. Participants offer mutual support to each other as we share our struggles and grief in a safe non-judgmental venue.
A weekly group using literature as a conduit for discussion. Participants share thoughts and feelings about what they have read and relate it ‘if applicable’ to their life experience. We meet every Thursday (except the first Thursday of the month) at 10:30 am. Please call Caryl for more information.
VISION LOSS SUPPORT GROUP
Meets the first Friday of every month at 10:30 a.m. in the conference room. This is an opportunity to meet new people, share information and benefit from mutual support.
Veterans age 55 + meet monthly to share stories and strive to re-create the camaraderie that is experienced when sharing a common bond. This group meets monthly on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 10:45 a.m.
Social Work Services
As more individuals are choosing to ‘age in place’, the senior center offers ‘home visits’ by the Social Worker to the HOMEBOUND elderly. We can provide limited case management services, emotional support and counseling. Many issues include loss, care giving concerns and tensions, coping with health problems, relationship issues, independence, depression, substance abuse, isolation and more. The Social Worker also sees individuals and couples on site. Please contact Caryl Greenberg for further information.
I am now a NOTARY PUBLIC in the state of NJ. If you need something to be notarized, free of cost, to ensure you are not disappointed please call first to make sure I am in.