Caryl Greenberg, MSW, LSW
Go Ahead and Vent; But Just One Time
I recognized myself after reading an article in ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff ‘and though this is a topic that many can relate to. When something really bugs me my tendency is vent- not once but many times to almost any one who I could grab to blab to. The more I vent about the same thing the more it seemed like I was trying to convince myself I am justified in how I feel. I was not even aware of how often I was venting to friends over and over until I began to preface my conversation with ‘stop me if I told you this already’. Venting has become a sport – a way of passing time and is likely gossipy too. That is another topic in and of itself! It has become clear to me however by observing my own feelings, that repeatedly venting destroys any potential positive aspects of the process. Venting one time can be useful even healing, repeat venting does the exact opposite. We don’t feel relief instead we create even more anger and frustration by reliving the issues over and over. For me, this is an outward way of ruminating- it is not problem solving in fact it is the opposite of moving on. When I constantly complain I recognize that I am in a low mood and my attention is focused on what is wrong in my life. Commiserating with someone who is also feeling down will even make me feel lower. So what should we do when we want to vent? Give yourself permission and find one person who you think will be empathic to you, vent to them once, feel good about it once and then drop it.
If you find yourself wanting to complain to someone else stop yourself and recognize that will only lead to being stuck with negative feelings. Incidentally, if you want to vent to me my door is wide open!
What exactly is the difference between a nursing home and an assisted living? Will Medicare pay for home care? What is a home health companion authorized to do for me and how much will it cost? Can an elder attorney preserve my savings in case I end up hospitalized for an extended amount of time or need nursing home care? These are just some of the questions you will have answered when you attend the Educational Fair on March 4th. The Senior Center will be hosting a panel of professionals who will discuss various areas of heath care.
The panel will include Carmen Fernandez from ‘Always Best Care
Senior Services’, Deanna Mellon from ‘Acorn Glen Assisted Living’, Michelle Barry from Princeton Care Center, Bob Goldbetter from ‘Ascend Hospice’ and lastly Sheli Monacchio from Van Dyck Law. You will have an opportunity to ask questions in a non-sales pitch atmosphere. There will also be vendor tables which will add a touch of festivity to this event! All are welcome; no sign up necessary.
By the time you receive this newsletter it will be the New Year; 2019! It’s hard to believe the holidays are behind us and we can now look forward to some cold, brisk stinging winds and perhaps snow blanketing our neighborhoods. It might be beautiful but it can certainly be slippery. Given the choice most of us want to stay home and not risk a fall when the weather is inclement. And that makes sense! If that sounds like you- please stay in touch with us. When we see you on a regular basis and then we don’t we worry; and we really care that you are alright. For those individuals who stop coming to the center entirely in the winter, social isolation and depression can slowly impact you. Please call me so we can keep in touch. Just a quick shout out about my Friday afternoon group- it is a drop in group- come any Friday at 1:45 pm- it’s a great opportunity to get your fill of conversation!
Monthly Bereavement Group: Monday, February 25th 10:45am Anyone who has suffered the loss of a spouse or partner
is welcome to attend the monthly bereavement group. Please note different date this month. Questions? Please call Caryl x 7212
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What's on Your Mind
"What's On Your Mind" meets on Fridays at 1:45 p.m. to discuss current events and information that interests you. We welcome new members. You can drop in anytime. Call Caryl for more information.
Monthly Bereavement Support Group
Ongoing support group. Participants offer mutual support to each other as we share our struggles and grief in a safe non-judgmental venue.
A weekly group using literature as a conduit for discussion. Participants share thoughts and feelings about what they have read and relate it ‘if applicable’ to their life experience. We meet every Thursday (except the first Thursday of the month) at 10:30 am. Please call Caryl for more information.
VISION LOSS SUPPORT GROUP
Meets the first Friday of every month at 10:30 a.m. in the conference room. This is an opportunity to meet new people, share information and benefit from mutual support.
Veterans age 55 + meet monthly to share stories and strive to re-create the camaraderie that is experienced when sharing a common bond. This group meets monthly on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 10:45 a.m.
Social Work Services
As more individuals are choosing to ‘age in place’, the senior center offers ‘home visits’ by the Social Worker to the HOMEBOUND elderly. We can provide limited case management services, emotional support and counseling. Many issues include loss, care giving concerns and tensions, coping with health problems, relationship issues, independence, depression, substance abuse, isolation and more. The Social Worker also sees individuals and couples on site. Please contact Caryl Greenberg for further information.
I am now a NOTARY PUBLIC in the state of NJ. If you need something to be notarized, free of cost, to ensure you are not disappointed please call first to make sure I am in.